Everyone likes honesty until it’s their time to be on the receiving end of some brutal honesty. Some ‘kind-hearted’ souls even refuse to be honest as to not hurt their counterparts’ emotions. We convince ourselves that we are doing the right thing by lying and not hurting them. But that could not be further away from the truth. Yes, in the short run lying may be advantageous but over time knowing the truth may have helped the person to come to terms with reality and move on/grow. By lying to them you are denying them the opportunity to face reality and work on it themselves. They deserve to know the truth. Ultimately, it’s their life and they get to choose how they live it, you have no right to lie to them and change the course of their life.
From your perspective, being honest gains others’ trust. Make no mistake, if you lie ones, you’ll fall into an endless circle where you’ll have to lie more to cover up that one lie and once you’re caught, their trust in you is lost. As we know, trust once lost is hard to regain. Therefore, it’s always good to be honest. Additionally, being honest improves your self-confidence and self-esteem because you’ve nothing to hide and you can be yourself comfortably, there is no need to filter yourself.
Being honest towards yourself is another aspect that people tend to overlook for some reason. The more you lie to yourself, the more you’re preventing yourself from growing and becoming a better person. A time will come when you’ll have to face the truth no matter how many times you deny it. Might as well deal with it now than drag it on forever. Being honest to yourself will help you develop the right values, principles and boundaries in life. Being honest to yourself will make you feel good about yourself. Being honest to yourself will give you a sense of freedom that is unmatched. This is because when you’re honest you don’t have to hide behind a mask. You don’t have to filter your thoughts. The most important gain from being honest to yourself is that you’ll no longer hold yourself back from doing what you really want to do in life. It will help you confront your problems and face your problems in the face and shove your middle finger back at it.
Another important quality to develop when it comes to honesty is having the ability to accept honesty from others. Look if you truly wish to grow as a person as important as it is to be honest to yourself, it is equally important to be ready to accept honest feedback about yourself from others. You can’t always be right, in fact, you can never be right and that’s why it is important to accept a different perspective. A different perspective from someone else. You may not agree with them but if they’re being honest then you need to be ready to listen with an open mind and then make your own non-biased conclusion. That’s the best way to grow, there are no shortcuts to it.
Being honest is hard but is the best thing that you can do for yourself and for the people you love. They say, “truth is bitter” but I feel, in reality, “truth is always better”. What you earn from lying is not worth it in the long run. When you lie to someone, you’re putting your relationship on the line and that’s simply not worth it. When you lie to yourself, you’re preventing yourself from growing and again, that is not worth it. Lying is never worth the short-term highs while the truth is always worth the pain.